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The reward outweighs the challenges, Surrogate says

It’s any day now for Josh and Jack Bowman-Pinnock and their surrogate Fiona Morrison.

They’re doing all they can to induce labour, anything from drinking raspberry leaf tea to dancing.

It’s not been an easy process to get here though, the husband and husband duo have been researching their options for about four years.

After they got married in 2018, they knew they wanted to have a child, but it wasn’t until 2019 that they met Raymond Terrace’s Fiona – the woman who would carry their baby.

“I had jumped online to research surrogacy from about February 2019, it was something I always wanted to do,” Fiona said.

“The reward you feel for giving is next level because you are creating life, you give up one year of your life to create life to make a family and give back.

“It’s such a short time, it’s just a blimp, you’re giving up things you might enjoy doing but it isn’t forever, and the reward is so worth it anyway.

“That moment of handing over something that you grew and created for someone else will be incredible.”

Prior to meeting Josh and Jack, the mother of two had paired with another couple, but it wasn’t the right fit.

So, Fiona commented on the duo’s introductory post in the Australian Surrogacy Community Facebook group and the rest was history.

“Fee commented on our post and sent us a message and we haven’t stopped talking since,” Josh said.

A few months later she offered to carry their baby and now they consider themselves a unique extended family.

“It was amazing, we didn’t think it would happen that quickly,” Josh said.

“We heard a lot of stories from people that said it could take up to two years to find a surrogate so for Fee to offer after six months was incredible, we were just over the moon.

Photo: Kathleen Cox

“We’re just like family in a brady bunch kind of way.

“We couldn’t imagine life without Fee and the girls, there is just an attachment there for us.”

“We have a picture in the baby’s room of Fi pregnant so the baby will always know how it came into the world,” Jack added.

Moving forward, Fiona will be involved in their lives forever.

“She’ll be Auntie Fee,” Jack said.

“There is never going to be a day where we don’t talk, I couldn’t event fathom it.”

He adds they’re all incredibly excited to meet the baby.

“People keep asking: ‘What do you want?’ and we always answer – a baby,” he said.

“We don’t care if it is a boy or a girl – we have names for both, we are ready, we just want them to be happy and healthy.”

However, Josh has a feeling it will be a boy.

“I have a feeling in my waters it’s a boy,” he said with a laugh.

“I’ve really channelled the pregnancy with Fee, like I have weird cravings, I have been sleeping poorly and we’re just connected on different level, it’s crazy.”

He adds they’re sharing their story to show others that “it is possible”.

“We’re breaking down the barriers and making it more acceptable for gay parents like us to be out in the world and know that it’s normal, we’re just like any other parents we’ve just had to jump through a few more hoops to get there,” he said.

They are staying at an Airbnb in New Lambton as they wait for the baby to arrive, if Fiona has not gone into labour by Thursday 1 April she will be induced.

They’ll stay at the home for a little while yet though, the separation process will be gradual.

“We’ll just play it by ear because you don’t want to shock your body too much, my body thinks [the baby] is mine so that detachment and the adjustment of letting go may be hard because my body will want the baby,” Fiona said.

“So, we will be in hospital together, and we’ll come back here together and then I might move back to my place in Raymond Terrace while they stay around for a bit and then eventually, and I don’t think it will take too long, I am pretty emotionally and mentally prepared, they’ll go home.”

To follow along with their story, go to Jack and Josh’s Instagram page @the_sydney_dads.

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